How To Ruin Your Life • Part 1

No one in his or her twenties sets out to feel empty or cynical. I can’t imagine anyone who would want their personal relationships to collapse under the weight of pride or the lack of basic emotional intelligence. No one wants to ruin their life, yet each of those things happens every day to people we care about and love. The harsh reality is that it can happen to anyone. The implosions often come as a surprise, even though the issues have been there for a long time. We just don’t see the destruction coming.

1. Can you look back over your life and see the areas where you’ve become more jaded and cynical?  Do you remember what is was like before you began to think that way?

2. What are some of the ways you struggle with self-reliance?  In your relationships both with God and those around you?

3. Read 1 Samuel 13:5-14.  What from this passage stood out to you?  Why do you think God told Saul to wait?

4. What was it that Saul lost sight of in these verses?  How do you react when you think you’re losing control of a situation?

5. Why is destructive behavior so much easier to see in others, but not in ourselves?

6. What are some of the ways you can distinguish between the right thing to do, and what feels right in the moment when you’re under pressure?

7. Pastor James said that one of the only things you can control is what you focus on.  How do you keep your focus on Godly things when your circumstances aren’t ideal?

8. What does trusting in God’s ability to handle things look like practically for you this week?  Is there a situation where you’re wanting to take back the control from God?