Life Hacks • Part 5

Bring Calm :: Proverbs 29:11

Conflicts are unavoidable. The biggest problem in handling conflict is that we just don’t know how to deal with it. How can we find a way to have disagreements without destroying the relationship? How can we bring calm to a potentially explosive situation?

Large Group

1. When someone disagrees with you, what is your first reaction? Anger? Embarrassment? Humility? Retaliation? Between Hulk, Phantom, Stealth Attacker & Martyr in your anger, which one do you tend to be more like?

2. Read Proverbs 29:22. When has anger gotten the better of you, both emotionally and spiritually and what was the end result?

3. Proverbs 29:11 states, “Fools give full vent to their rage, but the wise bring calm in the end.” When have you brought calm to a difficult conflict and salvaged the relationship in the process?

4. Read Proverbs 16:32. Anger can arise when something you love is threatened. When can anger be a good thing? How does anger reveal what you ultimately love?

5. Read Proverbs 24:28-29 and Proverbs 12:18. Can you think of a conflict when you directed your anger at the problem and not the person? Did this make a difference in how the conflict evolved? Why do we often find it easier to attack the person and not the problem?

6. Referring again to Proverbs 12:18, what did you think about the idea that we can choose to let anger escalate our conflict or we can choose to let anger bring healing? Discuss ways your anger can be used by God to bring healing.

7. How does the idea that “hurt people, hurt people” change the way that you view painful attacks?  What would it look like if you try to see these attacks as God calling you to reach out in love instead of reacting in anger to the hurt they cause?

8. Conflict – a test of faith? Maybe a test of will power, but a test of faith? How has God brought this truth that conflict is a test of faith home to your life recently?

Small Group

1. Getting revenge feels good. But there is never an end of revenge. There is just more conflict. Describe a cycle of revenge that you got caught up in. How can it be resolved or has it been?

2. How has God shown Himself faithful to meet your need by resolving conflict in your relationships? Describe how hard it was to turn it over to Him the first time.

3. You’ve seen God work to bring calm to a violent, angry situation. There was more at stake than you first thought. Describe what you discovered was at stake when the situation calmed down.

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